Cairns Casual Sex Rules
Being single can be hard work, especially if it’s been a while since you’ve, well… you know.
Not everyone likes the idea of one night stands and these days they’re not exactly safe.
But a casual sex partner (or booty call or F@#K buddy if you prefer) can be the perfect solution.
And if you’re looking for casual sex in Cairns, there’s a few things you need to know to make sure you do it right!
Is Casual Sex Possible?
It’s naïve to think that having a casual sex partner is as simple as calling up a mate, having some fun and saying goodnight.
Inevitably someone (mostly the girl but not always) will develop feelings, get jealous or start acting as if there is a ‘real’ relationship taking place.
That said, a casual sex relationship can be a good thing, so if this is something you and a friend (or a soon-to-be ‘friend’) want to try it’s important to have some rules in place before you get busy in the bedroom.
One of the primary reasons people enter into a casual sex relationship is because they are not looking for a commitment.
It’s important for both of you to be clear up-front that your bedroom hook-ups are for sex and only sex. You’re not a couple, simply friends who are ‘helping each other out’.
All relationships come with expectations but if you want your casual sex relationship to work, you need to let go of any expectations you may have.
This can be much easier said than done of course, especially if one person has feelings for the other before things start to get hot and heavy.
Let each other know what you want from the situation – if you want a booty call when you can’t find anyone else and they want a once a week ‘date’, your friendship and relationship isn’t going to last.
There’s just no telling when the green-eyed monster will rear its ugly head but you can guarantee if one of you has even the slightest feelings towards the other, jealousy will be an issue at some point.
No matter how much fun you have together or how close you are, you need to remember you are together for sex, which of course can be hard to do when you see your ‘friend’ flirting with someone and making plans to go home together.
When it comes to a casual sex relationship being honest with each other is the most important thing you can do.
Be honest at the start when you first discuss the idea of a casual sex relationship – if either of you has feelings for the other, it won’t work.
It also won’t work if one of you is prone to bouts of jealousy or are getting together in the hope that it will turn into something more in the future.
No ‘I miss you’
Missing your friend is one thing, missing your casual sex buddy is a whole different story.
If you reach the stage where you start missing your ‘F’ buddy whenever they’re not around, it’s time to be honest and reconsider the relationship and friendship.
No Holding Hands in Public
Public displays of affection are definitely a no-no when you’re out in a social situation with your ‘F’ buddy.
A few too many displays and people will start to question your relationship and you could find one of you falling for the other.
It may be nice to give and receive flowers but unless one of you has been in a serious accident or had a death in the family, save the flowers for a ‘real’ relationship.
Little things like this have a habit of being misinterpreted and before you know it, feelings have developed.
No Clothed Spooning
When you’re friends with benefits, there really shouldn’t be any situations where you need to be spooning while fully clothed.
If you’re doing this, you’re no longer just a casual sex buddy – you’ve become a couple.
No Body Part Nicknames
Assigning nicknames to various body parts might be cute when you’re in a relationship but when you’re hooking up things don’t need to get quite that familiar.
Lovely-dovey emoticons can be hard enough to swallow at the best of times but when you’re trying to keep things impersonal it’s best to stick to the emoticons you would use for friends or work colleagues.
No Baby Voices
If either of you start using baby voices or getting all cutesy, it’s time to reassess the relationship and decide whether to become a couple or end it.
Despite the risk of suddenly finding yourself falling for your friend, a casual sex relationship can be successful.
By being up-front from the start and knowing what to expect, it’s possible to keep your relationship casual and your friendship intact until either of you find yourselves in a relationship.